The decision to end a relationship can be one of the most difficult decisions in a persons life. This can be a difficult choice if you have been married for a long time. Is freedom what you want? Probably yes. Do you want to be alone? Maybe not. I think you have to decide whether companionship without love is enough to live on in later years. Making the decision is perhaps easier when you are not encumbered with worries and concerns that come about with age. If you really want to save your marriage, you might have to sacrifice a lot.
You can choose to stay and merely exist on a day to day basis, just to have someone to talk to at night and keep you safe from the storms, or you can choose to leave and weather the storms all on your own. After a certain length of time living with someone, the thought of being alone can be either exhilarating or terrifying, and I think it depends on if you want to choose happiness and freedom or security and resignation. If you want to try to save a marriage, you have to make sure theres at least something there worth saving.
Either way, the decision can be overwhelming. Professional marriage counseling is a profession available in culture and traditions of various countries and civilizations. In some societies this help is recommended and in some it is mandatory for marriage. The modern European belief that love and mutual attraction are important in a successful marriage is threatened by the presence of such a different and popular concept. Marriage help may be based on ideas of social stratification and on the principles of material wealth.
Sometimes it happens that love and mutual more probable to appear between people coming from similar social strata and having approximately equal level of wealth, because they have approximately similar levels of education and culture. Sometimes a person makes marriage like a social duty, this helping them deal with it. Now the image of wise old lady, who knows everybody and known by the whole town, which has almost faded in modern technological societies has been replaced by internet social networks and blogs.
Again love from the first sight is under doubt. Part of being an adult is coming to terms with situations that might not turn out exactly as you planned. Relationships can be especially unpredictable, and while your natural inclination might be to stop the break-up of your relationship, I would advise you to let go! Not all couples are destined to last a lifetime together. Breaking up is painful-no one like to admit that they aren’t ‘the one’ that their partner craves! It is perfectly natural to feel sad or angry about breaking up. Sometimes we just can’t stop a breakup, but we can deal with it in a healthy way.
At this time it is advised that you take some time to yourself. Possibly meditate or take a walk. Be grateful for your experiences, focus on the positive things within your relationship because these aspects of your life help to make you so uniquely different.



